I am so excited to introduce y’all to this new series!! Here, in a new blog category titled Love and Relationships, I will be sharing dating advice and a fun look to my own relationship! If you have any topic suggestions, feel free to send them my way!
So Brendon and I have been dating for almost 3 years, and a significant portion of that time has actually been spent apart. We met in October of my first year at school, and after barely a month together, we said “see ya later” at the airport before my flight home for winter break. That spring semester Brendon took time away from school to work in his hometown (4 hours away from school), so including winter break, spring semester, and summer break, we spent a total of 10 months apart after only 1 month together.
In that time, we fortunately were able to call or text each other daily, and during the spring we had a few weekend visits. Even though the distance was difficult, we were able to learn more about each other as we talked often, and when we were apart I was able to meet friends outside of our relationship and work on my personal growth both as an individual and as a student.
It was hard to not be near him or to not grow in our relationship in the same way we did for that first month when we met. But in our time apart I was able to focus on my studies, take more classes, join a sorority, meet new friends, and enjoy the other aspects of that year. But through all that time he was still my best friend and every time we got to see each other it was so special.
We have had other, shorter, seasons of long distance since then, and while I still wish we could always be in the same place, we have learned to cherish each other and our time together. Since B is graduating this December, and I will not graduate until May, we unfortunately have another season apart in the coming Spring. While I am not looking forward to the distance, I know we can handle it and I will see him soon.
So my charge to you all is: do not be discouraged if the one you love is not near, bravely face the distance, and know that if you spend that time on personal growth, together you will only become stronger.